As a middle-aged woman who has never explored her identity (gender or sexuality) beyond what I was raised with/to be, I found that thread kind of scary.
I'm happily married and have no reason to explore but if I were so inclined, that is not a community I would be willing to expose my vulnerability to.
I get not wanting to be some rich kid's learning experience. I read her behavior/comments as going far beyond that. My husband used to date a bi woman before he met me and that thread reminded me a lot of things he has told me about hearing from the bi woman he dated in the 90s, when a lot of hardcore second wavers were still active in the local scene in Houston.
Wherever her heart is, FMK is effectively operating in bad faith where you're concerned. ~siderea nailed the dynamic. You should just leave her alone. Not because her comments deserve to stand unchecked--they don't--but because all you get when you lead a horse's ass to the fountain of wisdom is a big steaming load of horse puckey.
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Date: 2019-04-13 06:08 pm (UTC)I'm happily married and have no reason to explore but if I were so inclined, that is not a community I would be willing to expose my vulnerability to.
I get not wanting to be some rich kid's learning experience. I read her behavior/comments as going far beyond that. My husband used to date a bi woman before he met me and that thread reminded me a lot of things he has told me about hearing from the bi woman he dated in the 90s, when a lot of hardcore second wavers were still active in the local scene in Houston.
Wherever her heart is, FMK is effectively operating in bad faith where you're concerned. ~siderea nailed the dynamic. You should just leave her alone. Not because her comments deserve to stand unchecked--they don't--but because all you get when you lead a horse's ass to the fountain of wisdom is a big steaming load of horse puckey.