no, what I’m scrambling for is descriptions of sensation, of experience, of feeling… from the perspectives of actual people.
I have a theory about this! I actually think that most porn has a problem with this, and that the larger problem is that we only have words and useful idiom for describing the experiences of active partners with penises. Most of those words are verbs and most of that description is actions. That is much more useful for describing the perspective of a fucker than a fuckee.
And I think this is a specific instance of the greater class of problem that we don't have a great language for discussing or describing internal bodily sensations, a problem that comes up when I try to explain things I am experiencing to medical professionals. It doesn't make it easy to convincingly communicate the experience of being penetrated (by anything, in any part of the body), or really even being touched. Nor any of the experiences of being a recipient of BDSM.
More thoughts, having to do with the repetitive nature of sexual behaviors making them hard to describe, and how this is like trying to describe evocatively the experience of listening to music. But later; it's my bed time.
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F'in the Inf'able
Date: 2018-12-10 09:07 am (UTC)I have a theory about this! I actually think that most porn has a problem with this, and that the larger problem is that we only have words and useful idiom for describing the experiences of active partners with penises. Most of those words are verbs and most of that description is actions. That is much more useful for describing the perspective of a fucker than a fuckee.
And I think this is a specific instance of the greater class of problem that we don't have a great language for discussing or describing internal bodily sensations, a problem that comes up when I try to explain things I am experiencing to medical professionals. It doesn't make it easy to convincingly communicate the experience of being penetrated (by anything, in any part of the body), or really even being touched. Nor any of the experiences of being a recipient of BDSM.
More thoughts, having to do with the repetitive nature of sexual behaviors making them hard to describe, and how this is like trying to describe evocatively the experience of listening to music. But later; it's my bed time.