wednesday linkspam

[sciatrix]

...in aid of avoiding the manuscript drafts lurking in wait. Or the playout shit. yeah.


I saw a flag with stripes of many shades of blue, and I looked up what it meant. Apparently it was proposed for gay men. Thanks, I hate it.
My old friend Siggy, who is theoretically the target demographic for this flag, about made me piss myself laughing with this one. (Personally, I view the lipstick lesbian flag as a helpful warning that I should either turn around and run briskly in the opposite direction or else gird myself for TERF wars, so I'm pretty sure I would feel the same way if I was over on his side of the fence.)

megascopes made ALL THE CAROL DANVERS ICONS. Excite.

Relatedly, I fucking loved beehammer's point about Carol Danvers not courting insanity when reaching for great power.

And I commune so much with kore's rage upon trying to hunt down AO3 fics in the Captain Marvel tag that actually in any way focus on one of the characters in Captain Marvel. Nrghrgh TAG THINGS BETTER, PLEASE GOD

More DW posting styling HTML links.

and... how to make your DW not suck for people who don't like your HTML style.

I've been enjoying Genevive Valentine's posts, as a total fashion neophyte--I have no idea what is going on, but it's at least entertaining, and there are pictures and sensible explanations.

Someone linked this book on estrangement to me somewhere with a lead piece that made it sound really good. I want to read it, but also: reading time is hard.

satsuma found some interesting evidence of an ace presence at '99 SF Pride.

Actually, It's About Ethics in Doctor Who Journalism, or Why I am no longer talking to Doctor Who fans about race

Comments

[brainwane]

Thanks for your comment - I emailed Bradford with a link to your comment.

I'm a cis person who once-in-a-while gets misgendered on first address by service workers in public or by strangers online, and who's been mistaken for nonbinary by a friend or two. I am affected by this issue way less than non-cisgender people and gender non-conforming people are. So I'm gonna err on the side of listening here and read discussion here and on Bradford's post. Greeting-and-meeting rituals are key first impressions when we meet strangers, and I'd like to be hospitable.

[sciatrix]

I mean, like... yeah, that is also more or less where I'm at re: my own gender shit; so don't view me as an Authority. I'm just rolling with what I have done and how I treat the issue for my spouse and I could be wrong! But.... yeah.

I want to be hospitable, too. I just also want to say: "you are welcome, but I don't want to stare at you or treat you differently from other guests or make a huge Thing about how welcoming I am; I just want you to be easily welcome. I want to make a social structure that does not ever make you feel alienated, neither fish nor fowl; I want to set up expectations that people do their best to make sure you have food to eat; I want to make sure that you are accommodated silently, not loudly, without your having to think much about it."

Of course, humans being human, this is not always the best guide. But I have had people staring awkwardly at me and expecting me to have some specific perspective they don't, usually the wrong fuckin' one, since I was a teenager, and that has left something of a mark. I don't want to do that to other people.