Oh, I've been banging that particular cane for nigh on a decade now, in the sense of... look, this probably makes me a curmudgeon, but I don't give a single solitary shit about words unless they come alongside a conversation. The Tumblr identity lists, or online glossaries? Oh, fuck that. Weird made-up words that come alongside an article talking about a person's experience, or what kind of attachments they want, or kinds of people they know? Now we're talking. I'll cheerfully pick up words as long as they're useful for particular kinds of conversations, but I feel like in some quarters there's a feeling that if you coin the word, the conversation will follow. Which: lol, no, sorry, not in my experience.
And also like... YES so much that re: the clearly delineated boundaries and ownership of symbols. Look, my queer community is a bright candle in the window of a warm lodge, with people coming in to talk to each other and find solidarity. If someone comes in and warms themself at the fire a minute and then finds that the conversants don't resonate, so be it! I can work with that! But I'm not putting a fucking bouncer at the door of a community that I want to be all about welcoming and support and building things together at barn raisings, you feel me?
(I have popularized at various times and in certain circles at least three relationship and identity terms, one of which I occasionally still get people cheerfully IDing as to me at meetup; look, wtfromantic was intended to be an expression of frustration with the frameworks I was sitting inside, but if you want to use it, rock on I guess and I'm glad the term resonated.)
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Date: 2019-03-05 09:59 pm (UTC)And also like... YES so much that re: the clearly delineated boundaries and ownership of symbols. Look, my queer community is a bright candle in the window of a warm lodge, with people coming in to talk to each other and find solidarity. If someone comes in and warms themself at the fire a minute and then finds that the conversants don't resonate, so be it! I can work with that! But I'm not putting a fucking bouncer at the door of a community that I want to be all about welcoming and support and building things together at barn raisings, you feel me?
(I have popularized at various times and in certain circles at least three relationship and identity terms, one of which I occasionally still get people cheerfully IDing as to me at meetup; look, wtfromantic was intended to be an expression of frustration with the frameworks I was sitting inside, but if you want to use it, rock on I guess and I'm glad the term resonated.)