I mean, it happens. T had a class last semester with a boy--and this type is always boys or young men, in my estimation--who would not stop announcing that he was autistic and demanding that T stop and verbally translate everything going on around him, which accommodation he was entitled to because he was autistic and diagnosed
Based on a former life as a moderator on an e-mail list: it always gets very interesting when these people get into an all-autistic environment for the first time. And by "interesting" I mean *hollow laughter*.
There are some boys whose parents appear to view diagnosis as sort of a sort of permanently lowered expectation cum get-out-of-jail-free card, and who decide that their job is to interface with the world for their sons and get them every possible service in spite of the son's... disadvantage. It does not lead to well-adjusted adults, and worse, the kids raised that way tend to have no social skills from an allistic or autistic point of view.
I feel like other route that can lead to this is late diagnosis, when people have spent decades without any accommodations, being constantly told to do stuff they can't and punished for things they can't change, and when they finally get a diagnosis there's a sort of rush of blood to the head and they go a bit overboard with YOU HAVE TO ACCOMMODATE EVERYTHING I WANT BECAUSE FINALLY. And being told "no, even if this particular behaviour is related to your autism you still have to stop because it's hurting other people (who may also be autistic!)" can be quite tough.
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Date: 2019-02-07 09:59 am (UTC)Based on a former life as a moderator on an e-mail list: it always gets very interesting when these people get into an all-autistic environment for the first time. And by "interesting" I mean *hollow laughter*.
There are some boys whose parents appear to view diagnosis as sort of a sort of permanently lowered expectation cum get-out-of-jail-free card, and who decide that their job is to interface with the world for their sons and get them every possible service in spite of the son's... disadvantage. It does not lead to well-adjusted adults, and worse, the kids raised that way tend to have no social skills from an allistic or autistic point of view.
I feel like other route that can lead to this is late diagnosis, when people have spent decades without any accommodations, being constantly told to do stuff they can't and punished for things they can't change, and when they finally get a diagnosis there's a sort of rush of blood to the head and they go a bit overboard with YOU HAVE TO ACCOMMODATE EVERYTHING I WANT BECAUSE FINALLY. And being told "no, even if this particular behaviour is related to your autism you still have to stop because it's hurting other people (who may also be autistic!)" can be quite tough.