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…because I’m still reading through a bunch of tabs my on my laptop, and I figured other folks might like the links.

 

Where’s my lesbian porn guide? by amaresu, who always has some of the best meta on DW, asking where the resources and tools for writing this are five years ago. Responses are interesting, and include one link to longstanding LJ comm lez_sex_tips, which isn’t exactly fandom oriented but does apparently have a whole lot of women talking frankly about f/f sex and how to make it good.

 

Someone attempted to put the guide together but apparently got distracted after the first entry. Shame, but the discussion’s good. Requested topics:

 

mechanics of particular acts, along the lines of “one finger, two fingers, three fingers, dick!” for anal sex, as well as “oh god that will hurt if she does that”

notes about nail trimming came up for fingering; it was pointed out that femme folks with long pointy manicures can and do engage in fingering and even fisting without cutting anyone’s vag to shreds via the magic of nitrile gloves and cotton balls; whether this is in character for any particular person you’re writing at any given time, eh. ehhh.

descriptions of variety and how to handle that for different characters

multiple orgasms: how does that feel?

what the fuck is a g spot and does it even exist? what is the feeling like?

what words can you use without being either too clinical or too, idk, explicit? people seem to get pretty vague; is this a bug or a feature?

strap-ons: how do they work, how do you negotiate the feeling of using one?

how realistic do you have to be, anyway?
 

More discussions on words to be used in smut. Unsurprisingly, this is a topic for femslash writers. (mons, man. Mons is a good word. Gotta remember that.)

 

Elsewhere, some anon threads:

 

What words do you use? I remain horrified at the concept of describing anyone’s “creamy core” mid sex scene, but there’s a lot of good discussion here. Personal takeaways: mons is a nice word, pudenda sounds great unless you, like me, speak enough Latin to know it literally means “the thing she’s ashamed of” or “the thing she should be ashamed of”, quim is just fuckin’ confusing, and I too kind of dislike “vagina” as a word for anything on the outside bits.

 

Why can’t a lot of femslash writers write good/hot/sexy porn? (Oh my god, nether pearl, no.) Contains a lot of good conversation, including “is femslash really that much more personal to y’all than dudeslash?” Spawned the discussions above.

 

Otherwise interesting:

 

How do/should het writers (especially woman-centric het, for lack of a better term) interact with femslash writers? Interesting discussion, if edging into a bit wanky at times. Contains contemplation about whether het shippers and other fans interested in proactively enjoying and celebrating female characters should be paying more attention to femslash. Tends to lump het and gen together, which mildly aggravates me, but eh.

 

What should I do when I notice heteronormative stuff bleeding into my f/f? I want to be a good queer feminist! Personally, my answer is “breathe, don’t worry about being perfect, because no one is perfect and expecting that out of yourself is mostly just a way to silence yourself. Create what you create, and if you notice themes in your own work that make you uncomfortable, play with what makes you uncomfortable and turn that into art, too.

 

Because it blew my mind a bit, a perfect description of the stylistic shit that turns me the fuck off so much femslash, which is then attributed to what is apparently a very popular/cliquish femslash archive/LJ comm back in the day. Huh. There is a lot of complaining about this archive in the anon threads I have been browsing through, and frankly, if it’s the reason that the style described here is so fucking omnipresent in the fic I’ve been hunting for I can see why. Grump.

 

Potential prompt mining: favorite tropes as applied to femslash. This pleases me. I love tropey shit.